Are You Wearing Your Indecision?
Are you wearing your indecision?
Procrastinating a decision can result in stress. This stress is what I term a “door opener” for phantom-hunger drivers. The bottom line here is INdecision can manifest itself in stress eating. Stress eating can result in you “wearing” the INdecision with extra layers of fat.
If you’ve been putting off making a key decision I encourage you to:
1. Think on purpose on paper. Give the task some focused thought and make a T-chart for Pros on one side and Cons on the other.
2. Focus on what you really want. Ask for what you want repetitively throughout the days. This is not the same as focusing on the opposite of what you don’t want. This isn’t algebra. The opposite of a negative is NOT a positive when discussing self-talk. Saying “I want my dog to stop urinating in the house” is NOT the same as saying “I want my dog to urinate outside.” The difference might seem subtle but it’s important. “I want my husband to stop ignoring me” is NOT the same as saying “I want my husband to notice me and acknowledge me.”
Most times you won’t be verbalizing this. You’ll just be asking for it and concentrating on it with enough clarity to draw a true emotional state to your consciousness.
3. Make your consciousness be directed at what YOU can do. Use the serenity prayer or some other statement you like that helps you to remember that there really are some things you simply don’t have the power to change but for the ones you do–make the choices necessary to create the change within you and served by your hand.
4. Talk to a friend, mentor our counselor about the decision you have been reflecting on or procrastinating. Contrary to the belief we all have that “No one else suffers as I do.” or “No one else has this problem.” or “No one else gives a crap” everyone is suffering in some way, everyone is just a little bit screwed up (or a lot) and there are people in your world who care. Instead of going solo ask for other input you respect and trust. If you have to pay for the input? So be it. Abuse can only occur in isolation. Reaching out is far better than making the exact WRONG decision because you were captivated in a circular manner by your own thoughts alone. I call this the loop tape to no where.
These four steps can take you out of the indecisive mode you may have been in. The liberation of decision rather than the suffocation of indecision will become visible in your exercise and food choices on a daily basis. Make the decision. It’s one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself.
David Greenwalt B.Sc., CSCS